That feeling that you've mucked up and can't fix it is such an awful sensation. Missing a flight, turning up a day late for an event, turning up in an empty space and not knowing if you've mucked up or if everyone else is late. Just thinking about those sensations can make a person all wibbly. I hate the feeling of wrongness that can descend.
Thank heavens that chatting to the right person is such a great reality check. To listen and empathize, while grounding and not adding to the spiral is one of those precious skills that can always be cultivated, and appreciated in others.
When you can't fix it Transcript
Thing 1: I AM THE WORST!
Thing 2: What happened?
Thing 1: I FORGOT A THING AND NOW I WILL BE RUDE AND INCONSIDERATE FOREVER I CANNOT FIX IT, FOR THE THING HAS PASSED SO IT IS BROKEN AND THUS I AM ALL THE BAD AND SELFISH THINGS
Thing 2: People might not have even noticed
Thing 1: I know
Thing 2: No need to make a big deal then
Thing 1: BUT MAYBE I SHOULD APOLOGIZE TO EVERYONE JUST IN CASE. I DON'T WANT THEM TO THINK I AM A SELFISH SHOWOFF
Thing 2: You don't think a massive apology might be showy?
Thing 1: IT WOULD BE AND MAKE PEOPLE UNCOMFORTABLE SO I CAN'T, SO I CAN'T FIX IT, SO HOW CAN I BE GOOD NOW?
Thing 2: By setting a reminder for next time and letting a little thing be little?
Thing 1: I can do that?
Thing 2: Yes